Both men and women can have unique takes on divorce because the experience will be different for each. In many cases, however, men can be unprepared for the financial and mental toll the divorce process will take on them. Below are some tips to keep in mind when you meet your divorce lawyer for the first time. These are the things you should be prepared to discuss with your lawyer and they each deserve some thought before you act.
Don't Think You Don't Need Legal Help
Many make the mistake of assuming that their divorce will be different from others. Even if you are getting along pretty well with your spouse, you cannot know what will happen when the divorce gets underway. It's vital that you act first and speak to a good divorce lawyer, especially if you live in a small town and there aren't many lawyers to choose from. Make it a priority to speak to a divorce lawyer as soon as you can.
What Are Your Fears?
Be ready to share what you fear the most about your upcoming divorce. Many men fear losing contact with their children. It may seem that the mother always gets custody of the children but there are many ways to create a parenting plan that allow both parents equal time. Many men are also fearful of losing their financial status as they try to lend support to both their children and their spouse. Speak to your lawyer about what can be done to alleviate your fears whatever they may be. Then, your lawyer will understand what matters the most to you and work to obtain it for you.
Know Your Financial Picture
Your finances will become a part of nearly every aspect of your divorce. Before you see your lawyer, do some advance planning by taking these actions:
• Create a budget for the future including living arrangements, potential support obligations, etc.
• Create a list of marital assets along with assets that are separate from the marriage. Separate assets include things you owned prior to the marriage, items gifted to you during the marriage, and inheritances attained during the marriage. Don't forget to include retirement accounts which may be considered a marital asset.
• Make a list of marital debt along with any separate debt.
Almost all divorcing parties experience stressful situations at some point and having the support of a divorce professional will be vital. Speak to your lawyer about the above issues today.